Amanda’s story:
I am 34 years old and have been working in the fashion industry for 12 years. I have been living and working in the city for a good 13 years. To be honest, I am a little tired from stuck-up and arrogant city guys I unfortunately came to know.
So when our firm hired a new assistant, a man, I didn’t pay much attention to him. He was a little younger than me, but not that much. He was new to the job so I had to help him a bit in the beginning.
He told me that he was from the country side, trying to get a place in the city. I thought this was interesting. The training period was about 6 months, so we had plenty of time to get to know each other. I was tired with so many failed relationships with city guys; so I would like to try to see if this country guy would be any better.
So we started dating. He was different from other guys I have met. He was humble and modest, which was rare in the men these days. I agreed to help him get a cheaper apartment in the building near our work place. I know the manager there.
When we went out about 2 months, he told me that he wasn’t from the country. He said that he has family in the city. His telling other people he was from the country was meant to be a joke. I found out that was right. Nobody in the office thought he was from the country. He never told them that.
I was furious that he lied to me. I stopped seeing him. Later, I found out that he was actually from the country. Apparently, his parents came to visit him a couple of times and the landlords noticed it.
He tried to explain to me. He wanted us to get back together. I am not sure how I feel about him. Should I trust him? Why did he lie to me about where he came from?
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Sherry love’s corner:
Well, this guy has lied to you 2 times. You know what people say, 3 times is a charm.
You have known him for a good 6 months but it seems you didn’t know anything about him. Well, you know something but mostly what he was willing to tell him. You were tired with the city guys, so when this country guy came to the picture, you decided to give him a chance.
So there are 3 episodes in your relationship:
- He told you he is from the country
- He explained to you he is actually from the city
- You found out he actually from the country
For the first episode, you believe he is from the country. You felt sympathized for him. You have helped him with his work and found a cheaper apartment. Think about it for a bit. Did he tell you he was actually from the city before or after you have helped him with almost everything? Have you ever thought that he might use you to get ahead at work and get a better deal?
Then after he got everything, he explained to you that he was from the city. Why do you think he did this? Could it be because he doesn’t want anyone to think that you have helped him, a clueless country guy, achieved thus far? May be his alter ego kicks in?
The last episode, he didn’t actually tell you but you found out the truth about him. He is actually from the country. He wanted to get back with you. Do you want to ask him why? Ask him what about you that he likes so much? Ask him when he least expects it to see how his reactions would be. Then you might have an idea if he lies… for the 3rd time or not.
I don’t know how you feel about this guy. Only you know this. But you have dated him for a few months and this guy already lied to you 2 times. He might not be a bad person, but he probably isn’t an honest man. May be he thought that he had to be manipulative to get ahead in the city. If you are interested in this man that much, you can talk to him. Try to find out what are his intentions to continue the relationship with you. So much for a humble and modest country guy, huh?
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