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Wendy’s story:

I am 25 year old and am currently working as a personal trainer in a local gym. I am working part-time in the gym until I can find some kind of technology job. I met him in the gym. He is working part-time too to earn the money to finish school.

We both love sports so our conversations were always interesting and exciting. We started dating even though he is 1 year younger than I am. He didn’t have a lot of money being a student and all. So I paid for all of our dates. I was fine with this arrangement.

One time I knew that he needed some money for the tuition. I didn’t wait for him to ask. I voluntarily gave him half of my paycheck. He was appreciative and grateful. He told me that no one has ever treated him like I did. I was very happy. Our relationship was blissful and great.

He often visited my parents’ house. My mother liked him at first. She said he was a simple and honest guy. He might be a keeper. My friends at work and in the gym also liked him. They often said that that we have made a nice couple. I trusted him. I thought we would have a future together. So I invited him to spend the night at my place…

A potential break up

One day, I asked him if I could meet his parents. He told me that he would bring me to meet his family on Valentine day. I waited for 4 hours in front of the gym, he didn’t come. He said he was caught in some kind of emergency involving his sister. I forgave him that first time.

Later, I continued to ask him about meeting his parents. When I was tired of asking, I demanded him. He finally admitted that his parents didn’t accept me. They said that the age difference was a big problem. They didn’t want their son to marry someone as old as his sister. I was crushed and aggravated. He comforted me by telling me that he would try to change his family’s mind.

I waited and there was no news. My mother found out about this. She was mad. When he came to the house later, my mother asked him what he would do if his parents still didn’t accept me. He told her to give him 4 more years until he can move out and be independent. Then he will marry me regardless of what his parents think.

Whose fault is it?

My mother rejected this request. She told him if his parents don’t come with him to talk to her in 1 week, she won’t let him into the house anymore.

The next day, he told me that we should end this relationship. There are too many obstacles than he can handle. I tried to persuade him to change his mind. But it was too late; he has made his final decision.

3 months passed by but I still love him. He let me know that he has met another woman. She is working in the floor above us. He often held her hands in front of me just to get me jealous. I tried to talk to her. She boasted to me that he has taken her everywhere and bought her many presents. She even stressed that she has met his parents and they accepted her.

7 Love questions to ask

I am so confused. I keep asking myself 7 questions:

1. Is my mother’s anger the reason my relationship fell apart?

2. Did I sleep with him too soon? Did I take enough time to get to know him?

3. Did his family pressure him to break up with me? Or did he make his own decision?

4. Did he act romantically with the other woman so I will forget him?

5. How can he forget 2 years of romance so easily?

6. How can I forget him?

7. My mother told me to get another boyfriend to get revenge on him. Why be sad and depressed while he is out there happy and joyful with a new woman?

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Sherry Love’s corner:

I can’t tell you what to do, but I might be able to give some kind of suggestions:

7 love answers

1. She was right to give him an ultimatum. He asked you to wait him for 4 more years, and this is tag too much. However, your mother didn’t know that you have slept with him. This mistake made you at a disadvantage. When he got what he wanted, there is nothing else to keep him in the relationship.

2. You were too hasty to get in bed with him. When a man got to enjoy everything in a relationship, there would be nothing to look forward to. He get bored very easily. A little cat and mouse chasing will make a relationship more interesting.

3. If he could be easily and strongly influenced by his family, then you might not be important to him at all. You love him so much, but he probably didn’t have the same feelings for you.

4. He tried to act romantically with the new woman in front of you. He definitely wanted to end the relationship with you. He just didn’t have enough courage to admit that he wasn’t man enough to protect his love and go against his family. So acting lovingly with another woman was a much easier thing to do.

5. You have dated him for 2 years but your love didn’t have any solid foundation. When in love, people would be willing to make compromises and to support each other to overcome any obstacle coming their way. It seems that your relationship was based on money. He dated you to borrow the money. You used money to trap him in the relationship.

6. You just have to try to forget him. Just be thankful that he revealed his true self before you two go any further, like marriage, for example. Would you be happy with a husband like this?

7. It’s not wise to throw yourself into another relationship just yet. You haven’t learned anything from this failed relationship. Do you really want to make those mistakes again? Take some time and think things through.

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