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Rina’s story:

After I finished high school, I decided to go the city to find a suitable job. Luckily I got a job as a buyer assistant in a small clothing store. I was happy with the new job and the new life.

When I was 21, I met a man. He was a frequent customer in my store. He asked me about every little thing. He would talk to me constantly about his life and work. He was a therapist. He seemed very interesting in me.

3 months later, we started dating. Dating for 2 months, I moved in with him. We were practically a married couple. We just needed a wedding and a license to make it official.

Get pregnant

2 months ago, I found out that I was pregnant. He told me that I should get an abortion. We were too young to have children. We both have careers ahead of us. I listened to him.

1 month after I got the abortion, I had a severe stomachache. I had to be brought into the emergency room. I found out that there were complications with the abortion. The doctors told me that I may never have children again. I had to stay in the hospital for 15 days.

Confront cheating man

While I was at the hospital, he was cheating on me with his secretary. When I got out of the hospital, he asked me to move out. He wanted to end the relationship. What hurt me the most was the fact that he broke up with me in front of her. Then they both insulted and humiliated me. I was enraged and fuming. I hit both of them so hard. It was a big fight and I was injured. My boss knew about this and I got me fired.

Now I don’t know anyone in the city. I have no job and no money. But the problem is I can’t forget him. How can I do to get over this break up?

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Sherry Love’s corner:

You have made many wrong choices and now you are paying the price. In the beginning, you had a plan for your future. You decided to go the city alone to find a better job. You had ambitions.

Then you met his man. His charm and charisma hypnotized you. You had many customers but this man treated you more special. You thought you have found a perfect man, a man who would protect and take care of you in this big city, don’t you?

You started dating him. After a few months, you moved in with him. Didn’t you think it was a little too early to do that? How well have you known this man? Did your relationship overcome any test or challenge yet? Did you initiate this idea or did he?

Well, it doesn’t matter anymore. But these are questions that any woman in your situation should have asked herself.

Controlling issues in relationship

Then, you found out you were pregnant. He asked you to get an abortion. You happily did it. What reason did he give you? Worry about your both careers? Do you believe it? Would it be possible that he told you to do that so you won’t have anything to keep him if he wants to end the relationship?

It is understandable that you were very angry at the man who betrayed you while you were in the hospital recovering from the abortion that he told you to get. But why did you fight him for? Would it be better if you would avoid him for a while until your anger calm down?

How did your boss know about this anyway? He was a frequent customer, did he tell her about the incident?

You have given this man so much but he didn’t appreciate and respect you. You have lost many things that you have worked so hard to achieve.

How to get over a break up?

Now you can’t get your mind off this man to start fresh. Take some time and think. Why do you keep thinking about him? Was he nice to you? Did you do something to make him leave you? Was it your fault or his fault that your relationship fell apart? Do you still love him or are you just angry with him for destroying your life?

If you get the right answer for these questions above, you will see that this man isn’t worth your time anymore. You may have lost many things but you are still sane and alive. Go out and find another job. Work your way up to top. You know, the best revenge is that you still enjoy life after a hard set back.

Heal past love relationship

It’s wise to take some time and go back to your family to heal for awhile. You can use this time to learn your mistakes from this relationship. You are still young and you will have many more relationships and break ups before you can find the right man. Don’t stay down and weep, get up and start again. It’s not easy though but you have to try for the sake of your well-being and future.

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