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A 70 year-old Mary told her story:

My husband passed away a long time ago. I have an only son and I love so very much. I live for him and he treats me very well. Sometimes I think about his future. Our family doesn’t have a lot of money and that is not going to change any time soon. So I want my son to marry someone rich so his life and the rest of my life can be taken care of.

There was a girl next door. She seems to like my son very much. She is not pretty but she is nice. The important thing is that her family is very wealth. Her parents met my son many times and they think he’s good for their daughter. Everything would be just simple if my son just agrees to marry her.

Marry for money

She came over many time, appeared to be very interested in my son. But I don’t know what the heck is wrong with that young man. He always found an excuse to go out. He did that many times so she stopped coming over. I can’t blame her. My son doesn’t know how to treat a lady.

So for a month for two, she got married. On her wedding day, I asked my son to and talk to her. If he did, she would probably call the wedding off. I kept telling my son that he still has the chance to marry the rich girl next door.

But no, he wants to marry this girl who works part-time at a beauty salon. I don’t know about what she does in there or who she is but she annoyed the heck out of me. She talks back and she is very lazy. My son worked all day bringing home the money. All she does is watch soap opera and sleep.

Marry rich girl vs. girl he loves

I don’t’ even know when or where they got married. They eloped, I think. They lived with me for 2 months after they got married. I couldn’t stand her. We got into argument all the time, even little things. My son then decided to move out. I was sad but relieved. I don’t even consider she is my daughter-in-law.

Only the rich girl I chose is my daughter-in-law. I want no one else. Five months ago, the rich girl began to come over to visit me. She told me she just divorced her husband. She kept asking about my son. My son may still have the chance.

Mother-in-law vs. daughter-in-law

So the next day, I came over to my son’s house. I tried to persuade him to leave his wife and marry the rich girl. He didn’t budge. I told him that I tried very hard to raise him. It’s time that my life as well as his life should be different. Well, the guilt thing didn’t work. He loves his wife too much, he said. He said he doesn’t want to talk to me until I got some sense into me. What sense!

So I tried to tell his wife to let him go. She slammed the door on my face and cursed from the inside. Well, I am not surprised. I can’t stand this any more. I just want my son to have a better life. What’s wrong with that?

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What does Sherry Love think?

A mother’s love can do so many things. It can save her children or it can destroy them. In your case, your love is doing that later thing.

You want your son to have a better life by marrying a rich girl. You think money will fix everything. It’s normal for a mother to want a better life for her son. Every mother does if she loves him as much as you do.

Dealing with parent

But don’t you see money gradually destroy your relationship with your son. He doesn’t want to talk to you any more. He wants you to leave his family alone. You must be angry to see your only son treat you that way. But think about it, you drove him to the point that he can’t stand you any more, just like you can’t stand his wife.

You are his mother and you believe what’s best for him. This is true if he didn’t wash his hand before he eats. But this is his marriage, his happiness. I have to emphasis on His. It seems to you are confused between his happiness and yours.

Whose fault is it?

You want to know what’s wrong with the way you think. It’s wrong that you tried to force him to marry a girl that he doesn’t love. You choose your daughter-in-law based on how fat her bank account is. That’s not a good criterion. It may work for a few people but it obviously failed in your case.

Although your current daughter-in-law has many flaws but you son chose her. You have tried so hard to raise your son so he can make his own decision. He did and was happy with his marriage. Why can’t you be happy for him? Why make him choose between you and his wife? Why put your beloved son into such a difficult situation? You love him, don’t you?

Worry about YOUR financial future or your son’s?

Your relationship with your son is getting sour because of money. It seems your son is not going to marry the rich girl that you chose. He doesn’t care about the money. If you don’t accept his wife as your daughter-in-law and keep trying to break up his family, you and your son will be the only people hurt in your irrational quest for money.

Ask yourself; is there any amount of money worth losing your only son? He is a good son, right? Your decision will either mend or destroy both of your relationship. Think about it.

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