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Lane’s story:

I have dating my girlfriend for 2 years. She is a good woman but she has one flaw. She often badmouth about me to her friends.

I wouldn’t say anything if it was just chitchat between girlfriends. But she went even further. Sometimes I confide in her some of my secrets and thoughts. I thought she would keep things to herself.

But no, she joked about my personal stuffs to my friends and boss. Everybody began to grin at me when I came back to work. I didn’t even know what she told them.

Sometimes she was invited to my house for parties, but she always worried me. I had to be with her all the time. I was afraid she would humiliate me again. I know she was just kidding around but what she did really put damp in our relationship.

I have tried to tell her to stop doing that but I couldn’t. She is very short-tempered and doesn’t like to be pointed out her own faults. I love her but I don’t know how long I can stand her if she keeps badmouthing and humiliating me like this?

Sherry Love’s corner:

Women often have a tendency to “discuss” about their husbands or lover when they got together and talked. Men don’t like it but the truth is some of the discussions may involve badmouthing and sharing personal stuffs about their men.

You seem to be fine as long as she chitchats with her friends but not with your colleagues and family members. Why is that? Is it possible that talking about you is the only thing she can connect with the people around you? Or is it she only appears to be funny when she makes fun of you?

She has many friends. Did she ever make fun of one of them to you? Why not?

She is short-tempered and doesn’t like people giving her advice. So you should be gentle to make her realize her flaw. It’s not wise to tell her directly right way. Take some time and ease your way into the subject.

It’s best is to point out people with similar flaw and criticize them, hoping that she would see a connection. You can make up a story about one of your friends and criticize him or her. Do it subtle so she doesn’t think you are attacking her.

You can try to give her hints here and there. I hope she can see her flaw and try to change. If you try everything and nothing works, then you may have to tell her the truth. But if you do that, there is chance that she may break up with you.

Everybody has a limit. If you love her so much to endure this one flaw, you can try. But If you can’t stand her now, what would happen if you two are married and have children? Think about it.

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