Rachel wrote:

I am currently in college. I have a roommate who has fell head over heel for this young man. He just transferred to my college this semester. He told her that he came from a broken family and he never experienced real love. She believed it and helped him with everything.

We students don’t make a lot of money. But she gave him most of the money she made each week. I told her not to believe him without checking if he tells the truth. She wouldn’t believe me. She believes everything he said. I don’t trust him. He is hiding something. I think he is manipulating her for the money.

What should I tell her?

Sherry Love’s corner:

I understand that you want to protect your friend. Your intention is good but if you’re not careful this can back fire. Your friend is in love with this guy. It doesn’t matter what you think, his words weigh more than yours, at least at this time.

You don’t know if the guy is telling the truth or not. All you have is a suspicion. You can check him out for yourself. Find some evidence if he told the truth about his family? I’m not sure if it’s necessary or helpful. Don’t you know love is blind? Your friend is blind now.

As far as I’m concerned, you have two options:

1. You can gently tell her about your suspicion. Be tactful or your friend will think you are trying to break them up. This may jeopardize your friendship. She may or may not listen to you.
2. You can let her be with this guy and say nothing. If this guy only cares for the money, hopefully he will leave your friend alone once she runs out of the money.

Think about and do what you think is right.