Ron’s story:
I am 29 years old and currently am a chef at an Italian restaurant. My restaurant just hired a new sous chef 6 months ago. She is a radiant and talkative. I fell in love with her the moment I met her.
We work together so I have so much time interacting with her. But all she said was what orders I had to fill and what orders I had finished. The kitchen was always hectic so it was extremely difficult for me to talk to her about anything else.
So after 1 month, I decided to catch her after work to tell her about my feelings. I tried that 3 times. She refused all 3 times for 3 different reasons.
The 1st time, she told me she was afraid to get into a relationship with a man who drink. I do…drink a bit but I am not addicted to it.
The 2nd time, she explained to me that she wasn’t ready to settle down yet. What was she thinking? I am asking her to a date and she already thinks about wedding?…?
So I tried something different on the 3rd try. I cleaned myself up real good. I brought her flowers. I talked to her for 30 minutes about I feel about her. I thought she would change her mind this time. But she rejected me again. This time she said I was like a Romeo pulled out of Shakespeare’s bookshelf. Then she left. I was at awe. Stand still for 1 hour for the shock to wash away.
I have been rejected 3 times in 4 months. I mean she isn’t that pretty but to me she is the most beautiful woman. I really want to get to know this woman but I don’t know what to do. If one day I don’t see her, I feel that there is something missing in my life.
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Sherry Love’s corner:
You know what, I will give you credit for patience and perseverance. You have feelings (a crush, may be) for this woman, so you decided to ask her out on a date.
She is working with you, and you are a chef, so you thought how hard can it be, right? You asked her out 3 times and she shot you down all 3 times. Have you ever thought that may be she isn’t interested in you? I mean, you heard the rejection but it seems you don’t understand what those rejections mean?
Well, you might have 2 options:
- Continue to court her if you still have the energy and patience. Sometimes it takes years to change a woman’s heart. Do everything possible like giving her presents, talk to her again, and again if you have to. Try to be honest and be yourself. May be one day she will fall for you. Just don’t be too aggressive or theatrical or she may want to get a restraining order or transfer to another restaurant. If you can, ask her what she didn’t like about you. Then may she will notice you after you have tried to fix your flaws to please her. By all means, if you love this woman that much, do what you have to do.
- You can focus on your job and work on your talent. Just think about it. If you get to become a famous chef, then there will be tons of eligible ladies following you every step. She might be one of them. It seems you may not have any chance with this woman, why waste your time? You can’t wait for this woman forever?
Do what you feel is right. Just remember, you are not the only person on this planet who got rejected. It seems most people got shot down once or twice. But most of them move on and finally find happiness with the right people. Life is too short to wait for a woman who is even not sure about her feelings.
Just a side note, never tell a woman she isn’t pretty. If you do, you will get more than just a rejection. Keep that in mind.
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