4 days ago, I was having a coffee at Star Bucks. There was a heat discussion on the next table. Two women tried to decide whether White or Asian men make better husbands. It was quite interesting so I decided to order 2 more latte and a sandwich. I wanted to see how this discussion would go.
I sat with my back to them so I didn’t know how they looked like or how old were they. So I would just label them woman #1 and #2.
Who make best husbands?
Woman #1: I live in America for quite awhile. I see that American men know how to treat women better. Once when I went to the bank. I was behind a man. He came in first but held the door for me. It was a nice gesture. The other time when I went into a super market, there was an Asian man before me. I thought he was going to hold the door for me. But he let go of the door and it almost swung into my face. See Asian man doesn’t know how to treat a woman!
Woman #2: Really? May be that he didn’t know you were behind him. I have a friend who has an Asian husband. She said he really cared for her. He may not be in the kitchen a lot but he takes good care of the children. He spent so much time with the children. She seems to be really content with him.
Woman #1: I heard Asian men never get into the kitchen. They don’t help their wives with the household chores. They think the household chores are women’s responsibilities. It’s not fair. If we both bring in the money, we should have a fair share of chores.
Woman #2: But if he takes care of the children, isn’t it a responsibility? There is some white father I know don’t even care about his children. White men do help with the chores but they don’t do so well with children. They are a little too impatient.
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The discussion went on for another half-hour with one prefers Asian man and the other prefers a white husband. There is nothing new since one couldn’t convince the other. So I left, but while I was walking I thought about the subject.
Asian men
Asian men and white men are raised in two different cultures. In Asia history, man brings in the money while woman stays at home taking care of the house and the children. But that was before when there is no job for women out there.
Nowadays, Asian women have to work along with their husbands to provide for the families. Although time has changed, Asian men still have the habit of leaving all the household chores for their wives. But one good thing is that most Asian men really involve in their children’s activities and schoolwork. That’s because in an Asian family, the father is supposed to give his children directions in life while a mother gives her children nutrition and health.
American men
American men also have a lot of plus point. They know their wives also have to work to pay the bills, so the wives get more respect. The household chores are equally divided. So is taking care of the children. The women have less work and is less tired. Of course, there are exceptions in both cases.
Both options have plus points. These are only my observations and opinions. I am not saying that all Asian men or all white men are like above. So please don’t be offended.
To the question posed above: Does Asian man makes a better husband than white man? I have to leave it to you.
photo credit: Jon Åslund
What do you think?